Needing insight on marriage crisis....?

Been together for 5 years, married for 2, we have 2 children and the whole house finances full time jobs... good ol' American dream thing going on... I feel bad but I don't for complaining about this but, I AM FED UP!!!! 5 years and no birthday gifts, dinner, dates etc, holidays..(I think my husband is jehovah witness), he misses important events that involves our children, he didn't know our daughter was talking. Found "teasing" text messages in his phone to a female coworker so I sensed okay, he needs excitement. LOL, yeah, well lets just say that didn't go well, evidently some men complain they get certain things too often so its not enjoyable, then if you don't respond then I am cheating.... I have spoiled my husband thinking that if he is satisfied in every way then he will remain happy. He even has every other Friday nights to go out with his friends. He doesn't have to do laundry or even repairs around the house. Problem? I forgot about me. So now, everything is an issue. Now I have belittled him because I call him unthoughtful. The breaking point for me... he drove my car last night to pick up a family member. He drove past 6 gas stations, and handed me the gas card this morning and says your going to have to stop and get gas because your on E. Okay, so I snapped and lost it because I have to get my son to school, take my daughter to my mothers, and the gas card is for one gas station that is out of the way. So he rudely says sorry to inconvienence you, you drive the car so put gas in it. How can I get him to understand that I am lonely. I don't feel desired wanted or if he even cares I exist. He says I am a turn off because I am angry and bitter all the time. I told him well I wouldnt be if I felt different. I am just over it anymore. I love my husband and I don't want this marriage to end, but its getting there. (There is more involved, just not going to bore you with it)